Grown-ups seem to have it all together. They have bills and houses and insurance and seem all responsible. I still look at other adults and wonder how they’ve got it all worked out.
I have no idea what I’m doing. I had moments where some things are a little clear, or a bit of experience has given direction to my approach, but generally, I’m making it up as I go along. Most of the time, I don’t know what the right answer is to anything, have no frame of reference, and just take an educated guess.
Parenting is probably the area I’m making it up the most. I’m probably using methods and routines that were used on me, but hopefully removing those elements that aren’t ideal. I’ve got no idea how to raise a small person to become a fully functioning bigger person. I can only feel relieved that as there’s no user guide to this, everyone else must have no idea either.
Whether it’s work, finding a home, relationships, children, or finances, I have no idea what I’m doing. Nobody teaches you everything you need to know. Nobody gets a comprehensive handover of how life works. You are constantly making it up.
Lesson – nobody know what they’re doing. You’re not alone.